Tennis and Me...

My interests in Lawn Tennis dates back to the day my father bought the first TV way back in late 80's. Year on Year i used to follow all the four championships (French, Wimbledon, US Open and Australian Open) closely. When i was in my college day i had an opportunity to try the sport and managed a decent serve with good back and forehand ofcourse after a good practice close to an year. Ever since i moved to blore the passion for tennis has taken a back seat with many other things taking the priority. But One thing hasn't changed - Watching few crucial matches of the championships (Atleast over the last 4 years didn't miss a single final of any of the championships and followed the rest of the games online). Other than enjoying the game i guess there is a lot you can learn when you watch the game. Again this might be accounted to the fact that i start analyzing everything i do and try to bring in a correlation to our daily lives. I know people feel this analysis as a kind of bore but i am really helpless in this regard as i beleive in extracting the experience from the so called "CHAMPIONS" and try to bridge the gap in self and be a "CHAMPION" in your own sphere and at the same time analyze people and make them realise their true potential and deliver their best.

Well What made me pour out my inhibitions on Tennis? Of course the fantastic Men's Wimbledon Final, Its one of the Best clashes between the superheroes of their last 12/13 encounters. Clearly there are two dominating men in the world of tennis both being my favorites - FedEx and Rafael. And if you have followed this final closely you would have appreciated what it needs to be a champion. It was a game of aggression, frustration, strategy, errors ,experience and Ofcourse Luck. Now do i need to say how to apply these complex sounding words but simple concepts to implement in everything you do?

Its my strong recommendation to watch if not most of the games but atleast a nerve biting games like these which you not only enjoy but also have some take aways too.....

Is it of my Interest?

I always wonder what makes some section of the community interested to read news which actually aren't NEWS at ALL. I really don't care what Paris Hilton did in Jail this week, Instead would put on my head phones and listen to "It's a Beautiful Life..." Well if you tell me there is something interesting in their lives, i will tell you much more interesting stuff to make your life exciting. There are stories of People fighting for Environment, some working for the devastated sections of the community, a few sacrificing their lives for the upbringing of the under privileged children, some working with the autistic kids. All these unsung stories go unnoticed since we are always interested in the myriads of fantasies of the "CELEBRITIES". But do we ever realize the amount of potential we have to make few lives better for we are gifted with such a wonderful life where are privileged enough to spare our time on those "NEWS". We know for sure we are not interested in these kind of news yet we try to follow up on who is dating with whom, who has split, whether the kundali's of the Ash-Abhi are matching etc? Is it some kind of entertainment for us? Don't we realize it sheer non-sense? If you are really looking or an entertainment go and watch a play or catch up a movie or download the latest hip-hop music and listen to it. These might be entertaining and interesting but definitely not the kind of Spicy NEWS which really doesn't spicen up our lives at all. As long as we entertain these NEWS, the paparazzi will always exist and will give their heart and soul to cover such stuff. The moment you realize if it really interests us, contemplate on what actually interests US, i am sure no body would really care for whether Paris Hilton is out or in the Jail, rather concentrate on how we better our lives.

eyeing the I's

Recently i was going through the education space advertisements and i was taken by a surprise with this year IIT JEE Results. Almost 2000 people from Andhra Pradesh qualified the JEE. Truly over the years a remarkable increase in the number of students getting through for the ELITE Insitution. This trend has always been there when you analyze the students across South. Here students always thrive to get into the top notch institutes. On the contrary when you look at the EAST Indian states, there is lot of competition among the Same Age group who want to make a career in Singing. Yes I am talking about the Sony's "Indian Idol" where 60-70% are predominantly from the NORTH-EAST. While students from south are busy with their regular studies trying to get into the IIT's,NIT's, BITS,AFMC's,JIPMER's...the students from N-E are ready to forgo their studies and concentrate on taking up SiNgInG(check the notes -read it Sa Re Ga Ma Pa Da Ne) as their career. I am bedazzled that in all the singing competitions there isn't Single individual from the South. Probably the young guns over here are media shy and are busy cracking the hard core force=mass*acceleration problems than practicing long hours of music, slog as much as possible to enter the colleges, then again work their ass off to get a good break in their career to earn those fat packets. Whereas the wannbe idols are very ambitious of entering the glamorous industry so that they claim the fame very fast, earn all the perks at a young age and spend the rest of the life in comfort and they give in everything for this. Both in their own spaces are working Hard which might be the "KEY FACTOR" for the successes. But it appears strange to me why isn't there a mixed competetion everywhere why should the competition be specific to a region, probably the IIT crackers can crack this...

A MOM's Tear..means a LOT...

9 Years Back her elder son leaves home in pursuit of a new Life. At that time she encouraged her son to do so, though he had the opportunity to cling to her arms, because she wanted him to be a worthy nut. Over the years he struggled, he excelled and still continuing his innings doing exciting things. In this 9 years he visited her 18 times and every time he bid adieu he could sense a Bit of apprehension in her face with a small tear rolling down her cheek, As always mothers are always worried about their children. Since it was a regular scene over the years she got used to it, One of the reasons could be there is still somebody with her whom she can share her moments of happiness/joy/sorrow for she never visited her parents/relatives. But this time when this younger one also flew, away from her "Nest"; She couldn't stop her tears flowing.Those tears might have meant a lot..not just a means of showing the parting but the moments of frisky fights, the moments of jubilation's and many more. Both of them have to deal with things in their own space. In this age of technology they might be connected through a mobile/phone but what about the mere physical presence? Probably she might look at her face every morning and start her day off now she has to only visualize. If she felt something went wrong she would want to vent the frustration on her..now she might have to vent on herself, she might need an helping hand in her chores now she has do it all alone herself. Those tears meant all these things which will be missing in her life from this day. Its not just the missing part..but the what's and whys of missing part which makes the emotions to flow in the form of tears. There might be lot more things associated with those tears but droplet that fell from her eyes had a lot of mixed emotions associated. And probably that's the beauty of parting from dear ones - On one side you are happy that you are venturing into exploring something new but on the flip side you are making somebody cry. But Isn't it the law of the universe that you have to part at some point of time? Though we Knowledgeable Human Beings are well versed with the laws but when it comes to emotions, attachments we would definitely don't want to come out of this sphere. But Isn't it wonderful there are so many things attached with those droplets when her child moves out of her den? True those tears from My Mom meant a lot when her daughter moved away from her and every time i say Good Bye to her... In retrospect i was the same when I left my School/teachers/friends....

Gave up or Made the Right Choice?

Last week i met an old friend at lunch who is getting married soon to his "Girl". I was taken by a surprise when he said he gave up eating N-V for his GF doesn't like him eating that. Having known him for quite some time who likes to eat this kind of food, it should have been a difficult decision But everything in the interests of this "Special One" and i guess he should have made quite some decisions in her favour. After our meeting i introspected on the way people take decisions under the influence of others. I rather felt he made a "Right choice" than giving up for a peaceful co-existence. Probably i am comfortable using "Making a Right choice" for the situation than "Giving Up". As "Giving Up" as i perceive is something driven by an external force, or you take such a decision out of frustration or love for others , where as "Making the Right Choice" is something driven by your own will in your own interests. There is an Advantage in "Making a Right Choice" as it is situation dependent and a personal driven decision you can at later point of time make the Right choice adaptable to that situation and always say "the situation demands". Where as when you say "Gave Up" the frame of reference is not going to change but your mind might change at a later point of time and you might start revisiting the habit which was not the case earlier and your are contradicting yourself giving a chance of wrong decision taken earlier. Probably "Giving Up" and "Making a Right Choice" are interesting phrases which are subject to debate, However I would prefer the later to former as the later gives me more freedom of flexibility and less accountability or rather justifying/giving explanation of the decision to others or one's self.

A lesson from Coffee - Courtesy (FWD)

A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.

Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups -porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive,some exquisite - telling them to help themselves to the coffee.

When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said: "If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress. Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups. And then you began eyeing each other's cups.

Now consider this. Life is the coffee; the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain life, and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of life we live. Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee. Fate brews the coffee, not the cups.

Enjoy your coffee! "The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything." Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly.

To MOM with Love!!!

I just realized that mothers day has just passed silently inspite of me trying to concentrate on permeating the information acquired into 5 minds!!! In this busy "too much to do" environment though the essence of the day might have been lost but the emotional attachment that i am binded with cannot be forgotten. There are certain moments in life that you really thrive upon a lot. One such moment is the day we are born for all the pains she had to go through to get me into this world. Over the years she has always been with me whenever i needed the support and stood back on my side in everything i have been doing though i have had differences with my other parent(my father). She adjusted her early morning religious rituals by getting up even before i open my eyes to make sure the break-fast isn't delayed, i don't land up late in school, many a times gave her part of the snack to me to make sure my stomach is full, and during those exam days when i used to get up in those vague hours of 2 AM she too is besides me to make sure i don't hurt my back by sitting continuously sitting for hours and how can i forget about the barley water in summers just in case i get de-hydrated, and the forgo on her sarees so that i could get a better trouser and the weekly fast for the well-being of the family, never visited her parents to avoid the problems of cooking we would have to face in her absence, avoided the doc visit so that school fee can be covered for that month ...ufff the sacrifices are too many to be listed. She has been selfless in everything she has been doing for she loves me a lot. I still remember the smile on her face the day i had gifted her saree with my first earning for that that is one mode i could express my love towards her and the smile was definitely for the emotional connection than for the material pleasure. Would definitely like to write more on how the feeling being associated to such a caring person but certain emotions need to be in the wraps than on the net, though she doesn't know there is something called blog but one day i am sure she will come to know of this..." I know you love me and I love you too. You might feel left out for being away from you. But i wanted to let you know i care for you and you mean a lot to me..." And these lines hold good for other MOM too...(Well I have 2 mom's I haven't written anything abt the other one...probably some other time...)

Brainless Beauty!!!

Tip Tip Barsa Paani...

Remember the old Hot Bollywood Rain Song...well yesterday i had been humming this song along with many other rain songs from all the woods (Tollywood, KollyWood,Bollywood,Sandalwood...) for almost 3 hours enjoying the deluge in Bangalore with the entire traffic coming to halt. For almost 4-5 km stretch of the road came to stand still. I could see the amount of frustration being vented out by the public with the amount of honks overshooting the normal decibels. It took me more than 3 hours to reach home completely wet(if you travel @ of 0-5 kmph, according to standard speed- distance-time equation i guess i justified it..and such is the traffic woe) . However i enjoyed the evening as suggested. I still remember my childhood days where i was never allowed to get wet in the rain for my parents were worried that i would catch cold and probably many other diseases. I always wanted to get drenched in rain in a no man/womans land. I experienced such kind of pleasure once when i was alone in a kinda forest and it was pouring and i felt i am very close to the nature , i felt as if i am sleeping in my mothers lap such an awesome feeling to experience the natural shower. But most of the general public feel that if it rains it creates many a hassles. Isn't because of the lack of proper infrastructure to be precise proper drainage system, we dont collect the rain water at all(How many houses in bangalore have the rain water collection pits?) If only we act smart heed to the advices given by the experts in rain water harvesting it would have been a different case. But for now until those advices come to practice i will still enjoy my self getting wet singing the guilt number meaning..."let the rain fall and reduce distance between the hearts..of course between mine and the nature's...

what type are you?

When i took this personality test some 4 years back the result was an "ENFJ". Not sure if my type has changed over the years. Well the types can be classified as based on the 4 different categories

* Extroversion - Introversion (E and I )
* Sensing - Intuition ( S and N)
* Thinking - Feeling (T and F)
* Judging - Perceiving ( J and P)

The first criterion defines the source and direction of energy expression for a person. The extrovert has a source and direction of energy expression mainly in the external world while the introvert has a source of energy mainly in the internal world.

The second criterion defines the method of information perception by a person. Sensing means that a person believes mainly information he receives directly from the external world. Intuition means that a person believes mainly information he receives from the internal or imaginative world.

The third criterion defines how the person processes information. Thinking means that a person makes a decision mainly through logic. Feeling means that, as a rule, he makes a decision based on emotion.

The fourth criterion defines how a person implements the information he has processed. Judging means that a person organizes all his life events and acts strictly according to his plans. Perceiving means that he is inclined to improvise and seek alternatives.
The different combinations of the criteria determine what type you are. So if we do the permutations and combinations we end up in sixteen types. So in this world every person more or less can be categorised in to one of these 16 types. Every type has a name (or formula) according to the combination of criteria. For example:
ISTJ
Introvert Sensing Thinking Judging or
ENFP
Extrovert INtuitive Feeling Perceiving

If you are an " I " doesn't mean you will be strictly an introvert, it will be more degree of being introvert than being extrovert. Same holds good with any of the types. The point i want to drive is each type is unique on its own way, and the way we tend to establish a connection with the fellow human beings depends on the type. Not everybody can jell well with every other person, its some common traits that makes you attract towards the other person and establish the connection. And a lot of falling into these types depends on how your surroundings have been since childhood. The art of decision making is also driven by what type of personality you are. Sometimes people tend to decide based on emotion others judge the situation putting their principles on high esteem. Its very interesting to talk about these personality traits in detail and draw parallels to things happening in our lives. But i am not a guru in human psychology to write in greater depth as we already have so much information floating :)

is it a DEAD END??

Early exit of the Indian team might have been forgotten but the things taking turn on 10Dulkar looks like never ending. From all quarters there has been a big hue and cry asking for his retirement and his behaviour/responses to the media. But as he says did we sit back and asked what is it going through his mind? Every time he walks into the field we expect him to score a ton after all he is a cricketer isn't is his job to fire all cylinders...If we take a closer look of his 17 years stint with Indian cricket he has been consistently performing..atleast the statistics show..Remember the last world cup?? who has been instrumental in taking the team india to the finals...and one bad day by him and the entire team costed us to forgo the world cup. The same thing happened this time too...we had the entire teams performance at stake and we didn't move to the next stage. So do we blame Only Sachin for this? Or do we blame the entire team...sac everybody and go for a new team altogether.....Probably somewhere something went wrong..did we try to analyze the situtaion..did we try talking to our players...Instead we want Sachin to retire from the game. I am not saying he has to continue playing for his life time...but doesn't he know or capable enough to decide when to take the decision of quitting the game....We have been with him whenever he has made the team win the matches..today when we see that we haven't proved worthy enough at the world cup we shout at top of our voice against him....Can't we try to be with him at this rough patch of his life, support him,make him regain his confidence and contribute to the game of cricket for couple of more years and let him retire gracefully....Dont we know the amount of expereince he brings to the team....Instead of peer pressurising him to retire, probably he should go back play some domestic cricket get some good touch and then come back and fire, we are yet to find one more 10dulkar for the team and may be him being with the team is a good sign for the upcoming youngster to be groomeed and fitted into his shoes. Well my gut feel is its a not dead end for the Great Legend and I am sure he has good amount of cricket left in him and contribute to the game and gracefully give way to the upcoming champions than forcefully for he has so much of potential and he has proved it many a times ever since he has been playing for Team India. Yes, he is indeed beginning to age, and it is showing in his performances, but that does not signal or hint towards any decline. The hunger, the humility and the desire to score runs is still within him. And come on folks for almost 17 years he has has been away from the family had been thinking only about the game and contributing for it (though would have made enough money through this) , earned millions of fans do we think this the way a person of high esteem needs to be treated?? I am sure a few tons in the upcoming matches will pacify the fans/media and start praying him again....thats how we have always been...GOD or DOG based on a situation.....We must agree he is god's gift for the Indian Cricket and has taken Indian cricket to a different level altogether and he ate,drank, slept cricket and there is no doubt neither about his attitude nor his performance and he will still be role model for many a upcoming cricketers.

Every Little Act Counts...

Last week i had been to pilgrimage center supposedly one of the richest ones in the world. Though have visited quite a number of times its always been a rush in rush out kind of trip. But this time its been unusual. I had quite an amount of time to spend in and around that place. Honestly i don't remember when is the last time i sat for almost 2 and half hours just sitting and let the brain do it work. I was sitting on the foot steps of the guest house to wait for the clock in my mobile to show 18.30 hours. I would have spent this 180 mins reading a book but fortunately i didn't have that privilege too. So i decided let me just observe the surroundings or rather the people around. I was trying to observe the patterns among the devotees who visited this place and the behaviour of the inhouse crowd. Right next to the foot steps there is a Tea-Center, indeed i analysed the amount of business he does on an average. Though the t-wala is doing a great business publics sipping the t-cup and just leaving the cup at its disgrace inspite of being written on every possible place not to litter. Almost every person who opted for the disposable cup has not taken just one step to put this in the bin which is hardly few meters away. However one guy has caught my attention. This reminded me the 'Safai waala's' character in Munnabhai MBBS who is on job . He is clearing the litter everytime some body spoils that place and that too with out any sign of frustartaion/anguish. He is always on prey for the litter to be cleared as soon as he finds something. If you tell me what is the great deal in this for he is being paid for the job, well the amount of deligience and perseverence he is showing in his work is what caught my attention. He is constantly eyeing at this place while doing the work on the road side some 100 mts away, walking all that way to clear the disposable cups - for he is not only making sure the road, the garden is clean he is also making sure that the work (disposing the cups in the bin) supposedly to be done by the devotees is being completed by this person. We know we are not following the instructions in this so called sacred place yet we want God to favour us in every possible way or rather grant every wish of ours creating inequations ourselves.
Though it seems like a small thing all these small events (inequations) lead to big ones in life which ultimately we would want GOD to resolve and thats what you have come here for and you are just adding more variables to your inequation and making GOD confused whether he should solve the worries bugging you or the worry you are creating to others . Since my ears were wide open i could hear people criticizing the way things are being handled by the in house staff , a thought crossed my mind they have the leisure to talk and make fuss about the system but they dont have the time to follow a simple instruction of disposing a cup in the nearby bin. Anyways i was impressed with the guy who was doing his job walked up to him told him that he is doing his job well, gave him a hug and handed him a small token which otherwise i would have put in the Hundi assuming that it reaches God... for I beleive in "Service to Humanity is Service to God" ...Pobably this small act of this person has earned him the status of GOD.....

Seven tips for making yourself happier IN THE NEXT HOUR

Have come across this excerpt recently...

Seven tips for making yourself happier in the next hour.

You can make yourself happier – and this doesn’t have to be a long-term ambition. You can start right now. In the next hour, check off as many of the following items as possible. Each of these accomplishments will lift your mood, as will the mere fact that you’ve tackled and achieved some concrete goals.

1. Boost your energy: stand up and pace while you talk on the phone or, even better, take a brisk ten-minute walk outside. Research shows that when people move faster, their metabolism speeds up, and the activity and sunlight are good for your focus, your mood, and the retention of information. Plus, because of “emotional contagion,” if you act energetic, you’ll help the people around you feel energetic, too.

2. Reach out to friends: make a lunch date or send an email to a friend you haven’t seen in a while. Having warm, close bonds with other people is one of the keys to happiness, so take the time to stay in touch. Somewhat surprisingly, it turns out that socializing boosts the moods not only of extroverts, but also of introverts.

3. Rid yourself of a nagging task: answer a difficult email, purchase something you need, or call to make that dentist’s appointment. Crossing an irksome chore off your to-do list will give you a big rush of energy and cheer, and you’ll be surprised that you procrastinated for so long.

4. Create a calmer environment: clear some physical and mental space around your desk by sorting papers, pitching junk, stowing supplies, sending out quick responses, filing, or even just making your piles neater. A large stack of little tasks can feel overwhelming, but often just a few minutes of work can make a sizeable dent. Try to get in the habit of using the “one minute rule”—i.e., never postpone any task that can be completed in less than one minute. An uncluttered environment will contribute to a more serene mood.

5. Lay the groundwork for some future fun: order a book you’ve been wanting to read (not something you think you should read) or plan a weekend excursion to a museum, hiking trail, sporting event, gardening store, movie theater—whatever sounds like fun. Studies show that having fun on a regular basis is a pillar of happiness, and anticipation is an important part of that pleasure. Try to involve friends or family, as well; people enjoy almost all activities more when they’re with other people than when they’re alone.

6. Do a good deed: make an email introduction of two people who could help each other, or set up a blind date, or shoot someone a piece of useful information or gratifying praise. Do good, feel good—this really works. Also, although we often believe that we act because of the way we feel, in fact, we often feel because of the way we act. When you act in a friendly way, you’ll strengthen your feelings of friendliness for other people.

7. Act happy: put a smile on your face right now, and keep smiling. Research shows that even an artificially induced smile has a positive influence on your emotions—turns out that just going through the motion of happiness brightens your mood. And if you’re smiling, other people will perceive you as being friendlier and more approachable.

Some people worry that wanting to be happier is a selfish goal. To the contrary. Studies show that happier people are more sociable, likeable, healthy, and productive—and they’re more inclined to help other people. So in working to boost your own happiness, you’re benefiting others as well.

Feel happier yet?

Thanks to the "Men in Blue"

After a dismall performance by the men in blue, team India has shattered the hopes of millions of cricket loving indians. As a matter of fact if we take a closer look into the actual loss as projected by the media its accounting to 200 crores of rupees be it in the form of advertisement or sponsorship and others. But looking at the team performance we need to to think if our team really deserved to get into the super 8 ? Frankly on Paper the Indian team has the strongest batting line up but how far have they been successfull. If we look in to the last couple of years other than the sub continent grounds we have actually lost most of the series abroad which indeed was an indication that our supposedly strongest batting line up isn't sufficiently strong enough to pull into the next round of the world cup. Though the team has perfomed well under pressure at times, we lost to a minnow team and changed the entire expectations. But if we actually analyze the situation Losing and coming back home is indeed good if not for team India to the rest of the indians atleast and to the economy as such. For instance there are at least 8 crore subscriber for the cable and satellite coverage, of which at 3% would be world cup lovers. Since that India didn't make it to the next round only 3% would watch the next 28 matches.

Had only India made into the final , men in blue would have played another 7 matches which means atleast 58 lac population would watch the match result of which 4810 crore hours of productivity would have been lost.Added to these health problems, students preparing for exams would be under pressure and lose concentration in the examinations and many others like these. Since we saved 4810 hours ultimately contributing 817 grand crores of rupees to the GDP.

The amount projected as loss because of team not making into the next stage is less as compared to this otherwise It would have been another 350% loss. Indirectly there are organizatons like the electricity board which has benifitted a lot, for your idiot box to run it requires 45 wattage of electricity. So if the number of viewers after 12pm reduce we might save 135 watt per head, overall the EB would have saved 3.24 laks of KW of electricity. So if we switch of the tv for the entire cricket tournament for each match runs in 8 hours pre-post discussion together the board would have saved 8.64 lakhs of KW and can be distributed efficiently to required parties.

So overall the its only for the advantage of the Indian publics the team India's loss has made up, so there is no use in people hurling stones at the cricketers house for their poor performance. On a lighter note there are stories going around that the "Main Candidates" for India's Loss / or Not making it into the final 8 stage is Former Prime Minister "Mrs Indira Gandhi" - Yes she is on the One who has actually helped East Pakistan to be emerged as "Bangladesh" and then you know the rest of the story.....and "Our Mythological superHero 'HANUMAN' - Had only he destroyed the whole lanka India would defintely have moved to the next stage

WTS...!!!(Women Thume Salaam)

Today the world celebrates "Women's Day" so i thought why not me too put in my thoughts on them on their day!!! Women have always had heir sphere of influence on me be it my mother or my teachers or my friends, they have inspired me in many a situations. However I always wondered/felt It's tough being a woman. The world wanted female emancipation, but did we really get it? It appears that all that women gained was the right to do two jobs. One at home and one in the work place. Working women get a bad Press if they have kids. The reality is that most women have to work in order to pay the bills. I don't want to bash the entire male population, far from it. A lot of men pitch in with child care and household chores. A lot don't. But these pressures can be eased off wit they way they balance their life.

Did we make a rod for our own backs, ladies? World War II brought a new respect for working women, as they worked the land and joined the labor force in the munitions factories and so on. In the 1950s, most of them were back in the kitchen again. As the next decade progressed, they started to come out again. The 1970s was a battlefield, when working women demanded equal pay for equal work. A lot of burnt bras have gone under the bridge since then.


Today, we have women judges, politicians, surgeons, entrepreneurs so on. It would be a brave man who said out loud that he didn't want to work for a woman. Has all this opportunity come at too high a price? Working women seeking good careers are postponing having children until later and later. Some of them sadly, find that they have left it all too late. There is a lot of pressure on women not to take a career break. They're frightened they'll fall behind their colleagues and miss chances of promotion. Women are supposed to have so many choices today, but biology is the real mistress.

The working mom is not by any means new to our society. Women have been in the workforce for as far as you go back in .....They are the bearers of children and they breast feed the next generation. That is a privilege. For working women who have to rush back to work, putting baby into child care, it's an emotional wrench. Coming home from work at the end of the day, means compacting quality time into a brief period. As we all work longer hours, fathers miss out too. How many working men and working women get home too late to give their child a bath or read them a bed time story. These precious years pass so fast.

It’s not a great secret that even nowadays men and women don’t have equal rights and opportunities. It’s not so visible in Western countries but in Eastern ones the heading role of the men is evident. I hope that in the nearest future the situation will change for the bells have already begun as women are competeting to get the same job as men in all fields. Women are already try themselves more in science, business and politics. It’s known that men are more theorists and women are better in practice, so women can invent new things, which men are not able to. It will be very useful to combine men’s and women’s knowledge to reach the real progress in science. Practical female mind should be more used in politics and economical sphere so I suppose that by the end of the twenties women will play the same role in the ruling of the country as men do now. It’s natural to women to think about the future and to care about the children, so they are the most peaceful politicians. May be we would live in the peaceful world if there were more women in politics nowadays.

There are some areas of life where women can be much more successful than men. They have all the necessary qualities and talents for it. I mean such spheres of social life as art, culture and education. Women are very sensitive, they often follow not their mind, but their senses, and the intuition often shows them how to act in this or that situation. Women are always full of new ideas and plans; they are creative and emotional persons, all these qualities will bring art and culture to the higher level, art won’t be separated from life and it will reflect the reality.

Education is the most important aspect of life, because the children are our hope for future, they will change this world, that’s why it’s necessary to bring up children in the right way. The woman is the mother first of all, nobody knows what the child needs, how to teach him and make him interested in subjects better than she does. Mother’s feelings are the strongest and the most sincere, so I think that more women should take of the role of forming school and university programs and to develop the education. It will be very effective and bring appropriate results.

So in the future women will be busy with science, politics, and education etc., but it doesn’t mean that woman’s role as housewife and mother will be forgotten as indicated in the very beginning, its all about striking the right balance. The technical progress will make the housing much easier, it won’t take much time to make supper and to clean the carpet and there will be left enough time for children.

The future is giving a great chance for women – they can be absolutely independent, most of them will be able to earn their living, to bring up their children and not be afraid for tomorrow. But I hope that this freedom and the possibility to earn real money won’t make the women pragmatic and they won’t forget that woman is the ideal of beauty, harmony and peace. Woman should always stay effeminate, kind and wise. Woman’s wisdom keeps everything in order. Their mildness and calmness save men from aggression and wars. Man and woman make each other complete and it’s the greatest secret of the harmony in the world. That day we will break out of "Men are from Mars Women are from Venus" and in unison agree that both are from the same planet indeed.

Cheer India!!!

With the world cup ceremony round the corner off late we get to see and hear only about cricket, and as usual the media is killing its time with dedicated hours only for the WC. The last time i followed up on cricket regularly was 4 years back in during the final days of my college. I still remember the day When India took up the challenge of facing the world champions and in the end like any other "Aam Indian" i too was disappointed. After this over the last 4 years have been hearing a lot on the Indian team but didn't follow any of the ODI series regulary. But with the world cup approaching fast i am here speculating the chances for India making it the Finale and winning the cup. Though don't want to get into the technical details of the teams strengths and weaknesses would definitely vouch for the "Men in Blue" has the caliber of repeating what their seniors did way back in 1983. With a good blend of experienced players like Sachin Tendulkar and Ganguly and the young blood of Robin and Pathan India has the strongest batting line up with limited Bolwling resources who can prove fatal to the opposition, needs to really focus on the Game for the next few days. My professor used to say All it takes for India to win a world cup is "Passion with fire in the belly " . Absolutely the team has to realize the Billion people's hopes, concentrate on the game show their perseverance and deliver under pressure with right frame of mind with clear strategies in place. Like many other folks i can be critical of the team but now that the team has already entered the battle field all we can pray for is that they perform well and bring laurels to the nation for It not only earns them Crores but also to the advertisers and a mere joy and satisfaction to the Publics. So I too join for the "Men In Blue" to Cheer them up saying "Come On India Dikhadoooo....."

Rokh Sakho thoo Rokhlo..

'Sir, baat mein kaayade ki karta hun/ desh ke fayade ki karta hun. (Sir, I talk sense and it's all about benefiting the country.) That's Union Railway Minister Lalu Prasad for you, presenting the 2007-2008 Railway Budget in parliament Tuesday with his true business acumen.

This time around, the railway minister chose to sprinkle his budget speech with Hindi and Urdu couplets, and unflinchingly began by comparing himself with Lord Krishna for bringing about a miraculous turnaround in the Indian Railways.

But the touch of modesty was not missing; he shared the credit with the railways employees.

'Lord Krishna was acclaimed as Giridhar when in a moment of crisis he lifted Mount Govardhan on his finger. However, he did this with the supporting hands of thousands of his fellow villagers,' said the minister.

'Though people are giving me the credit for the turnaround of the railways, with all humility I would like to share with the house that this miracle has been possible because of the tireless efforts of 1.4 million railway employees,' he added.

Lalu Prasad began his budget speech with a guzarish (request): 'Ho izaazat to karun bayan dil apna/ Sanjon rakkha hai maine rail ka ek sapna.' (If you allow me to, I would like to disclose my dreams for the railways in the comings years.) The Opposition was, indeed, not obliging, but he continued.

Crediting himself with ushering in a new work culture, he added : 'Navajis hai sabki, karam hai sabhi ka/ Bade fakhra se ham bulandi par aaye. Tarakki ke sare mayaron se aage/Naye dhang laaye, nayi soch laaye. (I am grateful to everyone and am very proud to have reached this stage, ahead of all milestones of progress with my innovative work culture.)

Outdoing former Prime Minister Atal Behari Vajpayee in his proverbial use of verse, Lalu said: 'Maana ki badi-badi baaten karna hamen nahin aaya/ Magar dil par badi kaarigari se naam likhte hain. (I don't know how to boast about what I do, but I have the skill to write my name on people's hearts.'

Talking about the 'record-breaking performance' of the railways in the recent past, including the increase in passenger and freight earnings, and the whopping Rs. 215 billion projected profits for 2007-2008, the minister said: 'Jitna ab tak dekh chuke ho, ye to bas shuruat hai. Khel tamasha aage dekho, dariya dil saudagar ka.'

Loosely translated, it means: 'This is just the beginning. Watch out for the fun as you witness our future generosity.'

- Courtesy - Too many to mention

400 Kms 8 Hours ..Fast & Furious Just for a 15 Min stay???

Last Evening me and couple of my old buddies decided to attend a reception of one of our ex-colleague. We set off from Blore at 4.45 PM. Initially the drive wasn't that great at all for Blore Traffic is like BSNL Telephone line "aapka dial kiya gaya number Philhaal Vyasth Hain.Krupiya Thodi Dher Baad Dial Karen" . I really wonder at times why are the roads always loaded with vehicles somehow got into the city outskirts after an hours drive and then guess what, its time for my friend to shift the gears, switch on the IPod (As the FM Signal was weak) and zap through the empty roads connecting to Chittoor. It was really a good drive through those sexy S curves. we had stopped at Kolar for a while to fill fuel into our stomachs (One in a week I forget to take lunch) . It was one of the Best MD i had . The drive continues with all my favourite AR Rehman songs. I enjoy these long drives provided you have music system in your car and atleast 3 albums of AR and defintely RDB one among those. Ofcourse on the way we met lots of Einsteins (The tractors carrying tonnes of Hay) and Sardars (Lorries filled with stock ) . Overtaking everybody on our way for the roads are so smooth and good i am sure you are bound to drive only at 90-100. I didnt even realise we drove for nearly 4 hours and soon we reached the reception point. Thinking we landed up late and were cribbing that we should have started an hour early,soon we discovered that the reception has actually not begun. Quickly we grabbed our dinner and posed at the video guy who was actually walking with the switch board on his shoulder and lots of people in the queue for food as if they are some refugees who haven't had food for days( I really wonder if they are remotely related to the bride's at all) . Soon the Bride and the Groom were on their gruelling excercise of standing for the next couple of hours. We grabbed this chance since most of them are busy trying to figure out where the food is served we greeted the couple handed over the Gift, exchanged few words took couple of snaps and left from the venue. Actually the Groom was delighted to see us ofocourse he had to be for we drove down almost 200 KMS just to shake his hand and wish him good Luck for the rest of his life for he is getting married. Soon we stared, hardly we were there for 15 Mins. I never imagined in my life i will go all the way 200kms to hug a friend. Way back we encountered lots of these Huge trucks which gave us an impression the entire Car Show Rooms in Bangalore are empty , no wonder there is a steep vehicular population growth. Stopped at CCD-Cafe Coffee Day to have a MasalTea - one of the Best CCD's i have ever been to. Way was listening some of my Kishore Daa's Goldy-oldies . Soon I was back from where i sarted. Truly "The Ends never Justify the means" as we spent only 15 mins for what we set out for and 8 hours of almsot continuous drive. It was 1 Am when i hit the Bed, even in the sleep i can feel myself still in the inertia :-). Yet Again Rai I appreciate your stupendous Velocity of Driving skills.

When is V's V'Day ???

Will Mr V celebrate V-Day as his day some day? For this i think i should depend on the kindness of my so called "Princess". I always used to believe someday my princess will come, right now she took a wrong turn and lost the way and is too stubborn to ask for directions. But will she really come out of my fantasy world someday and allow me to sing "Pehlaa Nashaa..." ?
People ask me don't you you have Girl in your life? I reply i don't want a girl I want to have a "woman" in my life and she is always with me.

I can imagine she must be the cutest and warmhearted and I wish her to be part of everything i do, she is the one whom i draw inspiration from. But does she know that I love her? What is that i have to do for her to convey the message across? Why is that she is never willing to come right in front? But what if she comes will I able to tell her how much i care for her, how much i love her , how much i have been longing for her? I always wanted to tell her the very feeling itself excites me, makes me go mad, but what if someday she walks across me, will I become speechless? With all these thoughts and questions she dances gracefully deep down in my heart making me smile not only on my face but in my heart as well.

If she gives me an opportunity to show how much i love her, Will take her to all those beautiful places on the river side and just spend time hand in hand, face to face , eye to eye all day long and make her feel with just my eyes not uttering even a single word conveying, "My heart to you is already given, Oh princess, do give yours to me, We'll lock them up together,And throw away the key".

If she asks me Quantify me the Love for her, i will respond her "A hundred hearts would be too few To carry all my love for you".

Every time my mind asks my heart How long can you wait for her?, It feels "Time is too slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but for those who love, time is eternity."

I am for sure some day she will realise how much I love her, for What I need to live has been given to me by the earth, But Why I need to live has been given to me by her.

The day she feels my love I will ask her "Will you be my Valentine?" and that day will be V(ijay)'s V-Day for she too has decided I am "The One" for her.

I am losing!!!

Well this is definitely not a sequel to my earlier post of the stuff lost but still the jinx of loss seems like not giving up at all. Off late the common question i am hearing is "Have you Lost......" Yes i am talking about my "Weight Loss". Though i never cared for it Whether i gain/lose weight but over the last 3-4 weeks it is bothering me a lot, as every second person i meet asks "You have grown so thin" "Have you been consciously losing or it is an unconscious loss" and many more on my very structure of my body. So to clear the doubts of these Questioners and mine i checked the wikipedia first : According to wiki - Weight Loss is in the medical context is reduction of the total body weight which can mean loss of fluid or muscle or bone mass or fat, apparently it is of two types - Intentional (Nowadays it is the Big Market just a call away...) and Unintentional. I should say i fall in the later category. Indeed it turned out to be true when i validated it quantitatively, And i really lost quite amount of weight . So it is a case of Unintentional Weight Loss and i need to act to it before the actual repercussions are initiated. But what has actually triggered this loss is it the erratic diet schedules or the burn out with those less hours of sleep? Whatever it might be i need to take care of it before this puts all the exciting stuff i do at Stake. As my friend says before you take care of every damn thing of others take care of yourself. Yes its time for me to concentrate on my diet and appetite and let me see if in the next few months i can really put on what i lost !!!!